This Months Blessing Challenge Focus: STRENGTHS!

Several years ago, I was struggling with how to help a parent, spouse or friend understand how to “nail” the Third Element of the Blessing.

"Attaching high value.” Here’s what I mean.

You'd talk to people about the First Element of the Blessing, Appropriate Meaningful Touch and they'd get it. It didn’t take long to “see” that a handshake, a hug, or other appropriate way of using touch was a key, biblical, personal, effective way to bless a loved one. People just got it. (Even if meaningful touch hadn’t been a part of their past).

Then I’d shared about the Second Element of the Blessing, Spoken Message, and people quickly “got” that as well. Anyone who has lived through Grade School or Junior High knows the incredible power spoken words have to build up, or to tear down.  Scripture tells us “Life or death is in the power of the tongue.” 

(Perceptive) people realize how quickly the positive feelings vanish when we BUY things for a child or our spouse as a way to value them. Even really NICE things. Instead, (if they’re at all perceptive) it’s amazing how writing or saying WORDS of Blessing can cause positive feelings and outcomes to stay and grow in a loved ones heart and mind. At compound interest.

Silence subtracts. Spoken words add.

But what about the Third Element of the Blessing?  "Attaching high value." Just how do you help people do that? That was my challenge.

And, that’s this month’s Blessing Challenge focus. I’ll be posting several thoughts on specific ways you can affirm a loved ones strengths, and Attach High Value to them.

Here’s the first way.

It’s a biblical tool, used throughout scripture, to help a child or loved one really “see” or “get the picture” of how much they mean to you. That’s crucial for THEM. I can’t begin to tell you how many parents I’ve spoken with who said, “I sent them to college!” “I bought them a car!” “They had plenty of clothes and food!” And yet their child leaves home and spends years feeling ambivalent or even convinced they DIDN’T get their parent’s BLESSING. Even with all that money being spent on them! Why?

The BLESSING isn’t something you can buy your way out of GIVING!

And to better learn how to give the Blessing, I hope you’ll consider practicing and using this tool yourself as grow in creating a culture of the Blessing in your home, church and world.

But before you read about how to Attach High Value to your loved ones -- in a post that pictures farmers in a field  – do yourself a HUGE favor and stop off at Music that Blesses Others. That’s where you’ll find our good friend and Blessing Champion, Shon Stewart. His ministry and website is  a place you’ll want to bookmark and revisit each month. (

It’s always inspirational. Each month, and sometimes more then once a month, Shon will feature a new Blessing Challenge artist who’s added their voice or music to the Blessing Challenge. (Like Joni Eareckson Tata last month!).  And this month, you'll hear a song by another one of our Blessing Champions, Mary Rice Hopkins!

Mary Rice Hopkins goes all over the country encouraging children with her fun, inspirational, Jesus honoring message in song. I encourage you to visit to find out all about her songs and concerts and all the ways she helps build the Blessing into the lives of parents and children across our country! 

Here’s one of her songs sung by Shon when he was a child, and shared here with Mary's permission. It will inspire you to learn more about Attaching High Value to EACH child – all of them having “high worth” and value to God and their parents.

Now that you’ve watched the video and are “inspired” to Attach High Value to YOUR child or loved one – the next post shares a biblical tool to help you do just that.

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